Why to not give a f*** what other people think about you? It’s a really great question. I don’t have an answer to that question but I can help you to stop worry about those stupid things. There are too many people with this problem today and this is a big problem because it blocks people to reach their potential. It’s not that hard to overcome this problem but you need to work on it and I will show you some tips to overcome this problem.
- “The unhappiest people in this world, are those who care the most about what other people think” – C. Joybell C.
Think about this quote a bit. Are you really happy right now? If you care what other people think about you then you are not happy. How many times you didn’t do something you want because you thought that others will make fun of you? I did this for too many times in the past. With this mindset you are sabotaging yourself and limit your potential. If you want to become a real man you should never care what other people think about you. You need to do whatever you want to do and what is right for you, whatever might people think about. It’s your life, not their life and you know the best which things are good for you and which aren’t. To overcome this stupid mindset you can do some exercises. I did those exercises in the past and they work. Try to do something that you are afraid to do every day. Expand your comfort zone and do things you never did before. With this approach you will expand your comfort zone and you will become comfortable with yourself and when you become comfortable with yourself, other people opinions wouldn’t mean a shit to you.
- You can control your thoughts
Yeah, you heard it right, you can really control your thoughts. In the most cases, you are the only person who criticize you because your own insecurities. A lot of people out there aren’t even notice you or if they notice you, they forget you in a moment. It is the case because people are too selfish and have too much problems in their life to even notice some stranger doing some “stupid” thing. So if you are constantly thinking that other people are criticizing you right now you should take a deep breath and remain yourself that you are the king of your life and instead of thinking about those negative things you should think about some positive stuff. You can improve control of your thoughts by meditation. I will talk about meditation later.
- You are your own reality
You are the center of everything, everything is you. You are the most important person in this life and no one should be more important to you than yourself. You create your own reality, you create your own thoughts and you create your happiness. Happiness comes from the inside. You are living in your world so why the f*** you even want to spend one second of your precious life to think what other people think about you? Your time and your life is the most precious thing and you should spend it on something positive and valuable instead feeding your brain with negative shit.
- It’s not your problem
It’s a really important thing to understand that other people opinions are not your problem. If they criticize you what can you do about it? You can really do nothing. You can’t change their thoughts and you shouldn’t try to change their thoughts. You saw that you can only control your thoughts, so trying to control others thoughts is meaningless. Criticizing is the negative thought and it’s their problem if they criticize you because they are feeding the mind with the negative shit. Like I said, you can really do nothing about it, so let it go. Focus on your problems and your life and try to surround yourself with positive stuff and positive people.
- Be yourself and authentic
You should always be yourself. Every person in this world is authentic and you really can’t be someone you’re not. Instead of trying to please everyone, try to be authentic. Try to be yourself, like you are at home. You need to express your real self and people will like it. Even if there are people who don’t like you, it’s not your problem and they won’t mean anything to you if you are living your life authentically. Have courage to allow people to see the real you.
- “Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.” – Bernard M. Baruch
It’s one of my favourite quotes of all time. There is everything you need to know on how to free yourself from the prison of other people opinions. You are the prisoner of others if you let their opinions affect you. You need to detach yourself from those things and free yourself. You will feel so f***ing great when you are able to do this. How many times you do or say something stupid in front of your real friends? Did they criticize you? Did you worry about what they thought about you? Of course not! They are a real people in your life and those people really don’t need to criticize you because they accept you as who you are. Other people? They can die, you don’t care about those people.